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Chapter Twenty-Seven: Texting and Sexting
As the world becomes more mobile, with virtually every adult owning a cell phone and almost all teens owning one as well, dangers arise with having your children text their friends, or even people they may not know. It is important to educate your children about the dangers of texting while driving before they get behind the wheel, and implementing the "it’s just not worth it" attitude with their texting habits.
There have been generations of technological advances that have transformed how adolescents and teenagers communicate with their friends, but the texting generation has brought an entirely new perspective on relationships and connecting. "About 77% of teens own a cellphone, with one in four owning a smartphone. And most are texting. 75% said they actively text; 63% said they text every day." Only a fraction of teenagers, 39% to be exact, actually use their phones to make phone calls daily. A staggering majority of cellphone users use their phones to text or connect online. It was also found that only 35% of teenagers said they socialize face-to-face with friends outside of school – proving just how heavily teenagers rely on computers and cellphones in their daily lives for social interactions.
Texting – risky behaviour
Though texting allows teens to connect to their friends fast and with extreme ease, there are many dangers that come with it. Texting appear to take over teens’ lives, and distract them from many important activities, or even get them involved in risky behaviors. With the increase in usage of social media and chat rooms, adolescents and teens are more exposed to strangers, are more prone to meet and communicate with these sexual predators. If they begin to talk to these strangers, they tend to exchange information with them, most often pictures, but they can also send them their phone numbers – making it easier for them to talk at all times. Parents should watch and look for warning signs to see if your child is communicating with sexual predators via text messages.
Texting while in school or during outings, whether regular conversations or even sexting, can be distracting and detract from shared experiences. It is crucial for parents to pay attention to their child’s texting habits while doing homework, or if they can, while they are in school. Texting is becoming increasingly distracting for adolescents and teens everywhere. Many reports are finding that texting has gotten to be a huge problem in schools for children of all ages. The distractions of the phone are taking away from the opportunity to learn, and statistics show that grades are starting to drop considerably because of this. As kids now have the opportunity to always be connected with friends from school, or outside of school, they can send or receive texts at any time of the day. Even if they are not physically sending out texts during class, they can become distracted by the buzzing or on-screen light up of a new notification from someone they received a text from.
How to prevent kids from excesive texting
These little distractions can cause them to lose focus, and lose track of the lecture, and keep them from staying on track to take full advantage of class time. Texting is becoming such a widely used form of communication and a main source of distraction that schools are beginning to forbid texting in class or on campus as a whole. Unfortunately, most teens take this to be a challenge. These bans, in essence, make kids go to great lengths to find covert ways of texting their friends in class. The task of thinking of a way to do this and actually doing it takes away from class time and learning, which is an issue in and of itself. Talking to your children about limitations on texting and when are appropriate times to text and not can help your child focus better in school and enjoy activities that they were distracted from before. Another good way to easily put limits on your child’s texting habits could be to not allow for unlimited texting plans on their phone bill. Setting up a limited amount of text messages on a plan could deter your child from constantly texting their friends and may actually help them from becoming attached to their phones, as well as protect them from sexual predators and texting while driving.
Definition of Sexting
These days, not only are children texting people they don’t know, but many are also engaging in what is known to be "sexting." As defined by the Merriam-Webster dictionary, sexting is "the sending of sexual explicit messages or images by cell phone." The word is a blend of the words "sex" and "texting" that are used in congruence. These messages can be text, photos or videos of nudity of either party. 22% of high-school-age teens have been involved in a form of nude sexting, this number rising for college-aged students. A staggering 29% of young adults said that they have sent these messages to people they have only met on the internet. While girls are more likely to send these sexually explicit texts to strangers, boys are more likely to send sexts in general. It is important to look for warning signs of your child texting with a sexual predator or even sexting anyone in general. Be aware if your child is spending an excessive amount of time on their phone, locks their doors, or if you notice that there is an unusually high number of texts sent and received on the monthly phone bill.
Signs of Sexting
It is also important that parents look for changes in their child’s behaviors and mood. Recent studies suggest that sexting is especially common among middle schoolers who may have behavioral or emotional issues. These middle schoolers may feel alone, left out, or not wanted by family or friends at school, so they resort to chat rooms where they then can find people (sexual predators) that give them attention and "love them for who they are." This is an extremely dangerous behavior because sexual predators can groom your child into thinking that they can trust them, making your child think it is okay to send these explicit texts to strangers because they fill a possible emotional void. Curious adolescents who participate in sexting are more likely to engage in dangerous sexual activities at a very young age. It is now becoming essential that parents not only have talks with their children about sex and sexual behaviors, but about sexting and the dangers associated with it. As technology moves forward, kids are able to gain access, and even get away with, many new risky behaviors, that they may not even consider to be dangerous. Due to this, establishing and keeping an open dialogue with your children is crucial.
Here are some tips to help protect your child from sexting:
- Keep in mind that sexting can stem from a variety of causes. Your child may be a victim of peer pressure or cyberbullying, so approach them in a calm manner if you find evidence of sexting on their phones.
- Sexting can lead to many psychological as well as academic and legal consequences. Make sure your children know that sexting is illegal when it comes to sharing photos and that anybody can get ahold of their pictures even if they think they can’t. Explain how they could face humiliation at school and lose educational opportunities.
- Set rules before buying your child a cell phone – tell them what kind of information is okay to share and what images are inappropriate to send.
- Explain the reputation damage that can come with having such intimate photos of them out for the world to see.
- In a relaxed setting, ask your children what they know about sexting or "naked photo-sharing." This is a non-confrontational way to have a conversation and help your kids understand the risks and consequences that come with sexting.
- Talk to them about the dangers of texting, and how they should never be bystanders or instigators of such behavior. Tell them that if they receive images, to tell you about it and to never forward them to anybody else. Be open with them and explain that it is okay to tell you when these things happen, so that you can be there to help them and not get upset.
- Make sure to report any semi-nude or fully nude photographs your child may receive to law enforcement.
- If you find out your child has been sexting, have a calm, supportive talk with them. Find out where the idea came from, like if it was for "romance" or a form of harassment. Learn as much as you can about the situation and have them delete all the photos first thing. Then have them contact the person they sent them to and make sure they delete them as well – contact their parents if need be and explain the situation.
More about the consequences of sexting from mobilemediaguard.com:
The severity of a child’s action in terms of sexting is not always fully understood by the children involved or their parents, but all 50 states have some type of legal enforcement.
While most parents understand that a child caught with sexually explicit images on their phone is criminal, the severity of the charges that could be assessed against the child can be sobering. For example, in states that have not specifically addressed sexting, it is very possible that the state will defer to its child pornography laws to address the action. As such, parents and their children need to begin to appreciate the following:
- Possession of a sexually explicit image of a minor is a crime in and of itself.
- Distribution (sending a sexually explicit image of a minor to others) is a crime in and of itself.
- Promoting (the act of taking the picture of a minor who is engaged in a sexual act, even if the person taking the photo is the object of the photo) or coercing or soliciting (requesting a minor or tricking a minor into sending a sexually explicit image) is a crime in and of itself.
- A teenager who takes a naked picture of themselves and sends it to another teen, has technically committed 3 felony crimes.
- They could be charged with promoting, distributing and possessing child pornography and, if convicted, could face real jail time.
- A teen who receives a sexually explicit image (even if it was not requested) can be charged with possession, and if they send the picture to anyone else they are looking at distribution charges if caught.
- If one of the children is 18 (17 in some states) they are adults in the eyes of the law and even though they may be in a relationship with another teen, if that teen is under the age of 18 (17 in some states) there is a much greater risk of strict prosecution.
- If convicted, the conviction will most likely be a felony and require the teenager to register as a sex offender.
While prosecutors tend to be reluctant to pursue aggressive sentences for teens who are caught sexting with a boyfriend or girlfriend, however, if the sexting image gets distributed to more than one child, then there is more pressure on the legal system to make an example out of the wrongdoers and impose heavier penalties. Regardless, if a teen gets caught with a sexually explicit image of a minor on their phone, that teen is going to be subject to the criminal process.
Arrests will still be made, lawyers will need to be hired to defend the child, and an incident can follow the child around for the rest of his or her life. Needless to say, it can turn into a very stressful situation from a simple lapse of judgment.
While the criminal component of teenage sexting is by far the most popular topic people focus on when it comes to the topic of sexting, there are many other adverse aspects of teenage sexting that can impact a teenager’s life or his or her family’s life in a negative way. These include:
Civil Liability for Parents
In general, most teenagers do not pay for their own cellphone. The account is in their parent’s name. Therefore, the parent technically owns the phone and permits the child to use the phone.
If a child breaks up with their boyfriend or girlfriend and has sexually explicit images of them and they distribute those pictures and the ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend suffers harm in any way, a lawyer could argue that the parent should be held monetarily liable for the child’s actions because the phone was used in a manner in which it was not intended to be used.
Parents should think of putting a cellphone in the hands of their child no differently than they think of tossing their child the keys to the family car. There is no difference except that the parent probably has insurance on the automobile. We live in a litigious society and when someone suffers harm at the expense of another person, someone is going to get sued.
Exposure to Sexual Predators and Pedophiles
Police and law enforcement agencies across the United States are warning teenagers and parents about the dangers of sexting.
Mostly because if the pictures get on to the Internet they become available to anyone, including sexual predators and pedophiles who are constantly trolling the Internet looking for images and pictures of children. Many of the sexting images that get distributed to more than 1 person end up making their way onto the Internet and into the collections of pedophiles.
Many times, if it is possible, the pedophile will try to seek out the teen in the picture and use the picture as blackmail so they can get more pictures of the teen or even worse try to arrange meetings for sexual encounters.
Cyberbullying and Sexting
One of the consequences of teenage sexting can be ridicule and peer abuse, especially if the teen who took the picture meant for the picture to remain private between her or him and the recipient.
When naked pictures get distributed amongst other classmates or peers the object of the pictures can become the subject of relentless ridicule, teasing and bullying. Many times the abuse does not stop after the teen leaves school. Social networking sites, text messaging and other ways to communicate keep teens connected to one another 24/7, and for the teen that is getting abused, it can become overwhelming because there is nowhere to go to escape.
A frightening example of this happened in Ohio when an 18 year old girl whose naked photo she sent to her boyfriend got distributed amongst her classmates and peers. The abuse she endured became so overwhelming that she thought the only way out was suicide. Another girl, a 13 year old from Florida had a similar situation which ended the same way. Neither one of these children intended for the photo they took to be distributed.
There has been a lot of media attention on cyberbullying and schools are trying to crack down on the practice, but like everyday gossip it is hard to police and stop. Stopping teenage sexting however, would be a good start.
College Admissions/Job Placement
Universities and employers are increasingly checking applicants’ social media sites as well as other background checks before granting admission or extending job offers. If schools or prospective employers come across sexually explicit images of an applicant, see that the applicant was involved in the distribution of a naked photo of another teen, or the applicant was arrested, or charged with a misdemeanor or worse a felony, then chances are the applicant is not going to be accepted or offered the job regardless of the applicants grades, or qualifications. The pictures show a lapse of judgment and the last thing a school or employer wants to see in an applicant is bad judgment.
Remember, especially with schools, the people reviewing the application do not know the applicant. All they have are the papers submitted and the information they find on their own. They don’t know the history or circumstances of why the picture was taken or distributed and generally, are not interested in finding out. They have a stack of other applications to go through and all they know is that this applicant had used bad judgment in the past and who is to say they won’t use bad judgment again and embarrass the university or bring unwanted attention to an employer. Four years of hard work can be destroyed in a matter of seconds because of the child’s lapse of judgment and a teen’s propensity to live in the moment and not focus on the lasting implications of their actions.
One of the more recent trends associated with teenage sexting is a practice of using a teen’s explicit photograph against the teen to extort more pictures, or even worse, sexual favors from the teen. In general, the extortionist will threaten to release the picture on the teen’s social networking site or send it to their school or parent unless the teen does something for the extortionist. In an attempt to keep everything quite the teen will usually comply with the request, but when doing so is actually creating a bigger hole for themselves, because now the extortionist has more ammunition at his or her disposal to extort the teen. The extortionist plays off the teen’s necessity to keep their indiscretion quiet. In most cases, the last thing a teen wants is for their parents, principal or even their friends to see a naked photograph of them. Teens tend to think that the repercussions of their actions will be more severe coming from their parents or school rather than the extortionist, and the extortionist is more than willing to see how far the teen will go to keep their secret quite.
Emotional Distress / Embarrassment
When a sexually explicit image which was never intended to be made public becomes public, the object of the picture can suffer great harm emotionally. Many times the teen’s behavior will change, grades will suffer, and depression can result. Many teens will need to seek professional help to get them through the trauma of the incident which can have long lasting implications. Remember that once something makes its way onto the Internet it will live there forever and even though it may be dormant for many years the potential of it reoccurring will always exist.
The most important thing to keep in mind when it comes to sexting is to stay alert and keep your kids informed. Maintain a calm, supportive manner at all times and work with your kids to solve any issues.